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Outrage as high bride price in Kenya becomes unmanageable, turns men off

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Embu Deputy Governor David Kariuki has appealed to parents of youths seeking to settle down in marriage to reduce demands during dowry negotiations, saying it discouraged them.

Mr Kariuki said cases of men shying away from proposing to local girls are on the rise due to unrealistic conditions imposed on them.

Speaking in Embu Town, the official cited a recent incident where a resident of the county fled his would-be in-laws’ home after the bride price was raised and penalties imposed on him.

“Many youngsters are not settling down in marriage because of the exorbitant bride price being demanded,” said Mr Kariuki.

“Recently, you heard about the man who left in a huff after various penalties were imposed on him.

“He was subjected to many fines until he felt he couldn’t take it anymore. Let us make it easy for our children to marry and start homes.”

Meanwhile, a man from Kathanjuri Village, Runyenjes Constituency, was beaten up by his in-laws at the weekend after his wife reported that he had insulted her as they argued over the dowry of about 20 cows that he had paid.

The man, only known as Ngari, was said to have told off the woman, claiming that the cows had ended up “with hyenas”.

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  • On the morning of their planned ceremony, Mbogo’s girlfriend notified him that the money he had sent her family was not enough
  • Upon arrival at his fiancé’s home, Mbogo’s entourage was slapped with several fines forcing him to boycott the ceremony

Negotiations and presentation of dowry is supposed to be a fun moment. So when two love birds from a rural outpost in Embu County agreed to have their families meet over the same a fortnight ago, only entertainment and merriment was expected.

With Mbogo unaware of many of the traditions and the seriousness they were treated with, he made several mistakes that saw him fined heavily.

So much so that he walked out of the ceremony to express his displeasure.

An infuriated Mbogo left in a huff, vowing never to set foot in that home again because his would-be-in-laws seemed hell-bent on extorting him.

A lot of planning had reportedly gone into the ceremony, with the young lad sending his fiancée’s family about Sh40,000 to cater for food, tents, chairs and a public address system.

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He had also set aside Sh60,000 to pay his bride price which is calculated based on the value of a number of cows and goats that the two families agree on.

“On the morning of the big day, Mbogo was shocked when his girlfriend called and inform him that the money he had sent was inadequate and the dowry negotiation committee had decided that he sends an extra Sh20,000 that morning,” said Kabiru, Mbogo’s relative.

Mbogo reluctantly coughed up the money and had to make several phone calls to friends for emergency soft loans as he was not prepared for the new demand.

In a fleet of hired cars and a school bus, they arrived at the fiancée’s village, hooting joyfully to announce their grand arrival.

But since there was no one to guide them, they made a detour to the wrong path and ended up into a different homestead instead of the girls’.

For this, the delegation was slapped with a Sh10,000 fine, which they paid grudgingly.

“Feeling exploited and harassed, Mbogo paid up the fine and we settled down for the ceremony. The introductions proceeded smoothly, followed by food as music rented the air,” said the relative.

Drama, however, ensued when several girls were paraded into the compound covered in lesos from head to toe and Mbogo asked to guess who his fiancée was.

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He studied the girls, who were of similar height, sniffed around for his girl’s perfume but all was in vain. He pointed to the wrong women, leading to yet another fine of Sh5,000.

The girls were shepherded back to the house and covered up before being paraded once again. Just like in the first try, Mbogo picked the wrong one, leading to yet another fine, something that sparked furious protests from his delegation.

A furious Mbogo excused himself to visit the loo, only to slither out of the home in fury.

He is said to have hopped on to a passing motor bike and headed to the nearby market centre.

“Efforts to reach him proved futile as he had switched off his phone,” said Kabiru, adding that the ceremony collapsed, even as the lady’s kin begged Mbogo’s delegation to prevail upon him to return and conclude the negotiations.

 

 

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‘I have been living with HIV/Aids for 10 years’ Narrates rape survivor Nikita

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A South African woman identified as Nikita has won the admiration of many for publicly speaking about her journey with HIV/Aids.

Sharing her experience via her twitter account she says

‘I have survived raped twice by my uncle and a unknown man,I have survived abuse from my mom.

I grew up in a orphanage, I was conceived via rape,I got diagnosed at 18 with a CD4 of below 100.

10 years later Im stil here thanks to my arvz #Covered24_7′

Nikita, who has been living with HIV for 10 years.

In another tweet Niqita said she was once sexually once abused while expectant by someone who should have protected her.

‘Ever had to be sexually abused while pregnant simply because you needed accommodation yep that was me. It made my strong.’

Describing herself, the mother of three said that HIV does not define her.

In the recent past more and more people are sharing their HIV stories. Among the most public cases are Asumpta Wagura, the late Binyavanga Wainaina,Phenny Awiti and Doreen Moraa.

Phenny Awiti was born with the virus but only found out when she was in high school.

Doreen Moraa has been living with the disease for 20 years.

By Mpasho.co.ke

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Top 3 robotics process automation (RPA) tools you can train on to become a highly paid consultant

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BY BOB MWITI

If you are an IT enthusiast or you are someone who want to make a career change, there is a wide range of cutting edge technologies in the tech industry right now, that you can train on to become a highly paid consultant.

One of those technologies is Robotics Process Automation (RPA). This is a relatively new technology that is blowing up right now! There is so much demand by companies to automate business processes and yet not many people have the skills needed to implement such a complex project.

In this episode of Success With Bob Mwiti Show, I breakdown the top RPA tools that you can train on, to become a highly paid consultant. If you like my work, kindly subscribe to my YouTube channel.

A Little Bit About Me!

I am a former international student in USA and I am a senior IT consultant in the areas of Oracle EBS Financials and Robotics Process Automation (RPA) here in USA. I am the programs director of Appstec America – A consulting company based in Tampa, Florida, USA.

I’ve been blessed to have learned a lot in my career as an IT consultant. My life has truly changed, and I’ve made it my mission to give back and serve others beyond myself. Whether that be helping you to relocate to USA as an international student, train you as an IT consultant, help you start and build your own online business, creating your financial freedom, motivating you to pursue your goals and dreams, to being more productive, to inspiring you to constantly improve yourself.

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My mission is to get you to wake up to the unlimited potential within you and achieve what you’re truly capable of through my various self-development training programs.On the internet, I openly and passionately share my life experiences and all of the very best concepts, strategies, tools, and resources that I continue to discover that have made a measurable difference to my life, and will do for you as well.

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I have not left my wife: Ex-president Jakaya Kikwete

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Former Tanzanian President Jakaya Kikwete has denied allegations that he has parted way with his wife Salma. Addressing a Chama Cha Mapenduzi (CCM) rally in Arusha on September 9 ahead of the October 28 General Elections, Mr Kiwete sought to put to rest the rumours propagated on social media.

“Should I, or should I not say?” Mr Kikwete posed to the crowd which cheered him on.

“I’ve heard that people were saying that ‘this lady has been dumped and that’s why she wants to become a Member of Parliament’. Do you want to take my wife from me? I have not left her,” said a laughing Mr Kiwete.

Making history

Mama Salma, as she’s popularly referred to by Tanzanians made history in 2017 after becoming the first former first lady to become MP after being nominated by President John Magufuli. Mrs Kikwete’s nomination was, however, viewed as a move to reach out to politicians with a big influence within CCM, as they were seen to be drifting away from the president.

After Mr Kikwete stepped down in 2015 after serving 10 years as president as per the constitution limit, Mrs Kikwete vigorously campaigned for Mr Bernard Membe, a close family friend to clinch the CCM seat and succeed her husband.

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Soon after clinching the seat, rumours started swirling that President Magufuli’s crackdown on tax evasion at the Port of Dar es Salaam put him at odds with the Kikwete family as firms they were in business with were under investigation.

However, Mr Kikwete and President Magufuli both dismissed the allegations as a mudslinging campaign.

Women empowerment

During her tenure as First Lady, Mama Salma was hailed for being at the forefront of empowering women. She founded the Wanawake na Maendeleo (Wama), a non-profit dealing with women empowerment. She also founded Wama Secondary School, an institution that enrols bright but disadvantaged girls.

By SDE

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