VIDEO: He cheated on me and was heavily in debt, Robert Burale’s ex wife reveals why she divorced him - Kenya Satellite News Network
Connect with us

Entertainment

VIDEO: He cheated on me and was heavily in debt, Robert Burale’s ex wife reveals why she divorced him

Published

on

Pastor Robert Burale was once married to Rozinah Mwakideu. But his “bad and unacceptable” deeds sent his wife packing faster than any woman would run from a cheating husband.

Burale’s marriage crumbled after only one year and two days. The preacher’s ex wife has revealed what made her desert her husband during an interview with Massawe Japanni on Radio Jambo.

Rozinah said she walked out of her marriage because she discovered her husband owed several people money and that he a great liar.

Rozinah Mwakideu with Massawe Japanni on Radio Jambo.

“I would receive calls now and then from people and police saying Robert had unsettled debts. It was a character he had and I kept waiting because I thought he would change because he was born-again. For example, the main reason why I left was after my friend came to visit me and after she left she wanted to sue him. I couldn’t handle that pressure plus other personal issues,” said Rozinah.

He cheated, apologized and cheated some more

Rozinah further reveals that Burale kept cheating on him and apologizing. She reveals that his actions even made her become suicidal.

Robert Burale with his daughter

“There were red flags that he was cheating on me but he would apologise. However he would fail and repeat it. Robert had so many things he was hiding from me in the name of being a pastor… I was expecting him to change. I became suicidal in that one year I lived with Robert because there was so much I was going through but I feared what people would say if I left. My mother is a prayerful person and that helped me,” Rozinah.

Rozinah Mwakideu

Robert lied to the public?

Early this year, Robert Bulare revealed what made his marriage crumble. He however didn’t mention anything about cheating on his wife. Burale claimed that his marriage ended because he rushed to marry his wife without dating for a long time.

“We courted for five months and then got married in the same year. Everybody said we were rushing it but we were in love, in hindsight, we should have listened. We dated, courted, paid dowry and got married all within five months. Her parents were okay,” Robert Burale said in an interview with SDE.

ghafla

 

 RIGHT OF REPLY: Below is what Burale told Nation.co.ke in 2012 under the heading:

READ ALSO:   Pregnant with baby number two? Size 8 opens up

Can your union survive sexual addiction?

 

For two years, Robert Burale was the perfect gentleman and the accomplished television reporter. He looked good. He had a girlfriend he treated with love and respect and showered with money and gifts.

But beneath the veneer of perfection he hid a deep, dark secret: he suffered from sexual addiction.

According to John Maina, a psychologist at Maranatha College of Professional Studies, sexual addiction manifests in different ways.

“It may range from obsessive watching of pornography and excessive masturbation to obsessive visits to strip clubs and brothels.”

“Addiction to sex begins with a few sexually oriented acts and leads to distorted thinking as the addict tries to rationalise and justify his addiction.”

An addiction will be diagnosed as such when it begins to impact on one’s social, financial or career life.

Robert successfully managed to keep his addiction under wraps for the most part of his relationship, but in late 2005, the cat jumped out of the bag.

“I began to have financial difficulties and get into debt. My prospective in-laws found out that I’d borrowed a huge chunk of money and they told my then girlfriend,” he says.

At first, she vowed to stand by him, but as Robert got into more debt in order to sustain his flashy lifestyle and addiction, she started to get suspicious.

“I had reached a point where I no longer had as much money as I used to. My girlfriend wondered what was going wrong, but I convinced her that I was just saving for a big investment plan.”

Living large

Unknown to his girlfriend, Robert’s income was going towards settling debts and paying bills at his favourite strip joint in Langata. His addiction was such that he could spend as much as Sh100 000 in one night in such clubs.




The relationship deteriorated when rumours began to spread about his visiting these clubs. His girlfriend did not take the rumours lightly; she began to keep tabs on his evening activities and it did not take long before he was nabbed.

“I suspect that someone might have seen me and my boys stroll into the club and called her. She caught me red-handed stacking money onto a stripper,” Robert says.

READ ALSO:   How do you find it working with your hubby? - Lulu Hassan answers

Although in the next few weeks he attempted to plead his innocence and salvage his relationship, his goose was already cooked.

“She just couldn’t take it and opted to leave,” says the former host of the popular TV travel reality show Kenya My Land.

Not many women would stomach their man being a sex addict, so her decision was understandable. In any case, Robert’s addiction was too far gone at this point.

“I was in my fifth year of addiction, having started out in the United Kingdom while studying for my degree in business management at Demontfort University,” he admits.

The addiction was fuelled in part by his peers and the attention his affluence accorded him.

“At first, I wanted to fit in. My boys were doing it and I did not want to be left out. Moreover, African men seemed to be in demand, which boosted our egos,” Robert says, adding that although he felt messed up and wanted to stop, he always found himself going back to the strip clubs.



When treating a sex addict, the treatment and recovery is never easy. Usually, the treatment takes time and hard work, particularly in the first year. In most cases, the recovery begins with the addict’s acceptance that he has a problem.

Spurring change

“Recovery is usually induced by the consequences, for instance, the loss of a job, a divorce, or a health problem,” John says.

For Robert, it was debt that spurred his change.

“At times, while still a TV show host, I would sleep hungry because I had no money to get supper. My mother found this difficult to comprehend when she found out.”

In 2008, he became a born-again Christian and began his recovery at an evening class that was hosted by a church in Ngong.

Robert admits that he often wondered if he could ever be whole again: “Some people in the congregation said that I’d only changed because of my debt and that once I got on my feet again, I would relapse. I felt like I had too much baggage on my shoulders.”

Facing fear

But perhaps what scared the man who is now a pastor at the Faith Chapel in Nairobi most was wondering whether any woman could ever accept him and his murky past.

In any case, she would have to confront her family’s and friends’ reactions as Robert’s fiancée, Rozinah Mwakideu, told Saturday Magazine.

READ ALSO:   Comedian Shaniqwa quits KTN

“When I began to date Robert, my family and some of my friends were genuinely concerned, yet I desperately wanted them to receive the man I loved. There were those who feared that he would go back to the addiction while others quipped that ‘once a thief always a thief’. But as they came to know the new, changed Robert, their fears gradually fizzled out.”

She adds that she was also concerned about how her son would react upon meeting Robert.

Before Robert proposed a relationship, Rozinah remembers that he hinted at something about his past: “He casually told me that he’d met my brother, who was a radio presenter, but did not expound on what the meeting was all about. When I asked my brother, he admitted to having interviewed Robert but, interestingly, did not give me the details. Now I know the interview was about his past addiction.”

She confesses that she might have reacted differently had her brother told her about Robert’s addiction.

Making a move

According to John, walking out on your man once you find out that he is a sex addict may not always be the best option: “Sexual addiction is a treatable ailment. But your man may not always open up out of fear that you may reject him.”

Robert attests to this. “I shied away from disclosing my past because I was not sure how she would react. I worried that once she found out, she would turn me down. But once I felt that it was time to confront my past and propose a relationship, I did not hold back.”

This proved to be the best move.

“I was impressed that a man would come out and tell the woman he wants about a past that many would consider scandalous,” Rozinah says.

“It made me see that he was not seeking a casual union but a serious, committed relationship. It made me respect and trust him.”

Robert and Rozinah make it a point to talk a lot about their pasts. Robert adds that Rozinah encourages him to speak about it.

“From my experience, I know that it is possible for a sex addict or any other addict to overcome his addiction. Personally, I’m proud that since 2008, I have maintained a clean slate,” he says with a smile.

nation.co.ke

Click to comment

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Entertainment

How billions broke Senator Linturi’s love

Published

on

Meru Senator Mithika Linturi who is embroiled in a bitter battle with his estranged wife Maryanne Kitany, now claims she is after some of his assets, conservatively valued at Sh762 million.

Responding to the divorce and matrimonial property dispute filed by Kitany, Linturi, in an affidavit filed at Milimani Commercial Court in civil suit number 78 of 2018, stated that he was never married Kitany since he has been in a monogamous marriage with Mercy Kaimenyi Mithika since April 8, 2000.

“The application and supporting affidavit are a cloak for Kitany’s vicious and fraudulent scheme to deprive me of my rights, interests, and ownership of the company Atticon Limited and other properties. I have never celebrated a customary marriage or any other form of marriage with her,” he states.

He adds that Kitany was in a monogamous marriage with her ex-husband up to and including January 3, 2016 and hence, legally incapable of entering into marriage with him in 2015 as alleged in her affidavit.

Part of Linturi’s presentation to court is an affidavit by his daughter who claims her father introduced Kitany to her and her siblings around December 2017.“My father informed us that Kitany was a friend in distress.

My father also informed us that he had previously allowed her temporary stay at our Runda home,” her affidavit states.

READ ALSO:   PHOTOS: Popular Akorino model Pesh apologises over viral swim suit photos

Meru Senator Mithika Linturi’s Runda home. [File, Standard]

She says Kitany put on the façade of a nice, friendly and supportive guest and would in the initial days take them out for dinners and shopping.

According to her, things spiraled out of control in January this year, when Kitany found out that her daughter got a navel piercing with her help.

“She even accused me of being in possession of marijuana and orchestrated my detention at a rehabilitation centre on the pretext that I was addicted to marijuana, while her real motive was to create a wedge between my father and I,” read part of Linturi’s daughter’s affidavit.

She states that when she was released from the rehabilitation centre, Kitany warned her that she needed to ‘behave’ and refrain from sabotaging her (Kitany’s) relationship with her father.“Ever since that warning, our relationship has been incompatible, like water and oil,” she adds.

On October, 25 last year, Kitany, a former chief of staff in Deputy President William Ruto’s office, obtained orders barring Linturi from entering their Runda home where they lived together.

Source: Nairobian

Continue Reading

Entertainment

VIDEO: See Uhuru give Margaret nice cheek smooches on World Thinking Day

Published

on

 

BY OLIVIA MUNGWANA

President Uhuru Kenyatta and his wife, Margaret Kenyatta, were caught on camera as they engaged in public display of affection during the World Thinking Day at Statehouse.

The video, posted on Twitter shows President Uhuru walking after concluding his speech and goes to shake Margaret Kenyatta’s hand, and then turns to kiss her on both cheeks much to her amusement.

He then shakes the hands of other people in the high table and then leaves.

See video below:

 

World Thinking Day, formerly Thinking Day, is celebrated annually on 22 February by all Girl Guides and Girl Scouts.

It is a day when they think about their “sisters” and “brothers” in all the countries of the world, the meaning of Guiding, and its global impact.

READ ALSO:   PHOTOS: Popular Akorino model Pesh apologises over viral swim suit photos
Continue Reading

Entertainment

Size 8: My hubby is not cheating on me

Published

on

Gospel musician Size 8 Reborn has dismissed reports that had been circulating claiming that her husband DJ Mo is a cheat.

Sometime last year, rumors circulated in the gospel circles alleging that Size 8 had walked out of their matrimonial home after she found out that her celebrity husband was stepping out on her.

The claims were almost made believable when DJ Mo later appeared in an interview and opened up about their marital ups and downs. In the interview the gospel DJ had admitted that there was a time his wife disappeared from their home for about a week, after an argument.

He explained that it was a normal couple disagreement even though people read so much into it.

Recently in an interview with radio host Masawe Jappani, Mama Wambo, as she lately prefers to be called, maintained that her husband of five years has been faithful to her in their marriage.

“It’s not true. Hizo ni rumours because rumours lazima ziwe lakini si ati ndoa yetu ni perfect,” she said when asked about the cheating claims.

“Of course tunakosana kama kawaida. Sisi hukaa chini tunaongea, sisi tumeona kwanza before we are celebrities, kuna Linet na Muraya kwa nyumba before Size 8 na DJ Mo so kila kitu tuna-handle pamoja. Kama kuna tashwishi watu wanaongea juu yake tunakuja ndani tunaongea tunaamua how we handle it.”

Source: Nairobi News

READ ALSO:   Sanaipei Tande explains why she has been single for 6 years now
Continue Reading
poapay3

Like us on Facebook, stay informed

NEWS TRENDING RIGHT NOW

2018 Calendar

December 2018
M T W T F S S
« Nov   Jan »
 12
3456789
10111213141516
17181920212223
24252627282930
31  
satellite-communication1.jpg

Trending

error: Content is protected !!