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Battered woman quits marriage, seeks solace

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One gaze at Benta Akinyi immediately draws to her heavily scarred face. Perhaps used to the stares, Ms Akinyi exhibited little signs of self-consciousness.

She simply made herself comfortable and started recounting a beating she got from her husband the previous night.

“He has turned into a monster that beats me senseless. When I regain consciousness he asks why I am not dead. He keeps reminding me that he will kill me, and I think he means it,” said Akinyi.

Akinyi said she had reported the assault by her husband at Karuri Police Station, where her case was booked for investigation. But, she said, police were not helping.

“I have been to the police station countless times, but no one is helping me. That’s why my husband feels invincible. Each time I report, they dismiss me saying those are domestic issues.

I have also been to the Central Police Station but I only spoke to a counsellor,” she narrated.

A terrified Akinyi has since decided to walk out of the marriage with her two children. She vacated her Karuri home that was shared with Howard Muya.

She sought refuge at a hospital in Nairobi.When reached for comment, a woman the victim of abuse referred to as Officer Koki, said Akinyi had indeed been to the Karuri police station.

“Ms Akinyi recorded the assault case with us and she was promised that police would investigate the matter. Why didn’t she wait for authorities to do their work?” Koki asked.

Pressed to give an update on the investigation, the officer said she had not been to the station long enough to know all the details about Akiny’s case.

Mr Muya, on the other hand, was more forthcoming and admitted to beating Akinyi several times. He described his wife as a “difficult” woman.

The 29-year-old cooking gas distributor at Muchatha market said his wife often went through his phone and insulted his female clients.He also admitted to once biting his wife on the neck when she went to report a different assault incidence to the police.

“She pretends a lot to outsiders, but in the house, she doesn’t respect me at all. That is what makes me beat her,” said Muya, adding: “There is a way men feel when disrespected by women. Akinyi feels she can disrespect me just because she is older than me. I find that difficult to accept.”

Akinyi recalled the worst beating she got from her husband, which caused infection on her breasts.“In February last year, Howard (husband) came to the house and told me he wanted me gone. I was breastfeeding my daughter, who was only one-month-old.

He pulled out a metal rod and started hitting me all over my body and on my breasts,” she narrated.The injured breasts later started emitting pus. “There was a terrible pain in my breasts. Little did I know that my baby was feeding on pus,” she said.

Akinyi, 31, said she had also endured emotional turmoil after her husband started cheating on her shortly after they got married in 2015.“He brings a woman called Njambi in the house and the two call me all kinds of names because of my physical appearance,” she said.

Muya, however, denied cheating on Akinyi.But that was not the only abusive relationship Akinyi had been in.

Her face, she said, was scarred while she was living with a man called Felix in Homa Bay.Prior to meeting Felix, Akinyi said she was a runaway teenager after she was sexually assaulted by relatives who had taken her in after her parents died while she was eight years old.Before then she had sought help from a children’s home in Homa Bay, but said she was turned away.

When she moved in with Felix, Akinyi said a clergyman at a nearby church offered to pay her school fees and pay her a stipend in exchange for sexual favours. Felix, she claimed, was agreeable to the arrangement.So the cleric paid for her secondary education until the day Akinyi decided to call off the relationship.

She said Felix got furious when she made the decision to cut off their regular source of income and he decided to teach her a lesson.

“One day as we walked down the road, I did not know he was hiding a mug full of sulfuric acid under a piece of cloth. He poured the acid on my neck and back, which caused me severe burns. Shocked, I turned to find out what was happening and that was when he poured the rest of the acid on my face and chest,” Akinyi recalled.

She spent nine months in hospital, away from school where her classmates were preparing to sit the Kenya Certificate of Secondary Education examinations.

Akinyi said she beat many odds, completed school and was admitted to the University of Eldoret, where she graduated with a diploma in community development in 2014, a year before she met Muya.“I had sworn never to fall in love again. It actually took a while before I fell for Howard.

He always told me he was not ashamed of how I looked and would hold me even in public. I never knew he was capable of hurting me,” she said.

A human rights counsellor at Central Police Station, who only gave her name as Veronica, said she had unsuccessfully tried to convince Akinyi to quit the abusive marriage.

“I have tried several times to make her leave, but she always went back to the husband despite the emotional and physical abuse. I am glad that she has now made the bold step of leaving,” said Veronica.

The counsellor said Akinyi and her children needed help.“I think the only thing that stopped her from leaving was the fear that she would not be able to raise her two children alone. But Akinyi is a very smart girl who can easily get a good job if she undergoes plastic surgery. She has shared with me the rejection she faces from potential recruiters because of her looks,” said the counsellor.

Source: Standard Media

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The Kansoul rapper Madtraxx was recently on social media to mourn his late sister Dr Njeri Mungai who died two years ago after slipping and falling in her bathroom.

She was 8 months pregnant when she died.

In his post, Madtraxx confessed how he misses her and also how life changed since she left.

”I miss her so much. Every day I think about her. I feel her energy. Such a big gap was left in our family and the world by her passing. I wish she could see the strides made in destigmatising mental health problems. I love her so much. Two years now. Still hurts. God holds us in his hands,” he wrote. 

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Njeri, in 2017, fell on the bathroom where she was found unconscious and having really bled. She was rushed to hospital but was pronounced dead on arrival.

Madtraxx promised will always remember his late sister because he named his daughter after her(Njeri).

“We could never live without a Njeri. I know she’s smiling down on us all. Today her energy is everywhere,” his post read. 

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Chinese man in love with Ngina Kenyatta has some Kenyans happy over “prospect of SGR debt forgiveness”

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Zhe Fang Liu, a photographer who is on tour in Kenya has declared his underlying love for Ngina Kenyatta, the only daughter to President Uhuru Kenyatta.

In a story done by the Nairobian, Liu claimed he loved the president’s daughter for her selfless nature even though he had never met her.

The publication also reported that Liu runs a photography agency in Los Angeles and China adding that he has been living in the US since his parents migrated there when he was 5-years-old.

The 28-year-old is optimistic that he will get a chance to express his love for Ngina before he leaves the country in June and even marry her.

“My parents always continuously asks when I’m going to get married. I just got overwhelmed and decided to tell people that I’m going to marry Ngina,” he stated.

“So, I figured I wanted to at least go on a date and cook her dinner to see if we have the same values. They say the beauty of a woman must be seen from her eyes as they are the doorway to her heart,” he added.

Ngina Kenyatta, a daughter to President Uhuru Kenyatta

Kenyans took to social media over the matter with some making hilarious comments.

Sasa hakun haja ya kulipa loan ya SGR, said Kiman wambu in Twitter.

“He should get a Huduma Namba and it will increase his chances tremendously,” Solo Ngatia stated.

“Everything in Kenya belongs to China,” Isaac Mugiadded.

“That’s good. The dowry itself could offset our Chinese loan. Take her,” @CryptoKenya , another tweep, weighed in.

“To avoid war and make peace among kingdoms, in the Game of Thrones, they’d marry from one another’s tribe to cement that,” yet another netizen remarked.

Ngina Kenyatta is the second-born daughter of the president and her siblings are Jomo who is the firstborn, and Jaba who is the last born.

-Kenyans.co.ke

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Kiss Fm presenter Linda Nyangweso: I felt a lot of shame eating in public

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Kiss Fm presenter Linda Nyangweso has opened up about her struggle with weight.

In an episode of the ‘Legally Clueless’ podcast, the presenter shared how having weight issues made her afraid of even eating in public.

“The truth is I feel like every woman is insecure right? I have always had body insecurity issues because I just don’t look like the other girls who I am told are supposed to be the beautiful ones, it’s hard to be a plus sized girl. I went to an artsy school where everyone was limber, skinny and blonde and then I joined an industry where beauty is more marketable than anything. It has been an ongoing insecurity. I used to hate taking pictures because it was evident that I was very different. I was not only super short, I was also super fat and so you kind of standout standing next to these tall Amazonian girls around you,” Linda confessed.

“I had to stop that because I like who I am, I deserve to take up space. I constantly feel like I have to apologize for existing because I didn’t look like what you think I should look like. I stopped feeling that way when I realized that if I’m constantly apologizing for existing I am not actually living.”

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Only when she was at peace with her image did things easy up on her. She said now she doesn’t mind much.

“I eat and I don’t feel shame about it, I used to feel a lot of shame about eating especially in public because I always felt that when people see me eat they think I am constantly eating. I stopped eating in public, I never ate is school because I was afraid people assumed that is all I am doing anyway. These days I am shameless about that. I can say I am hungry and I don’t feel like that makes me look fatter,” Linda said.

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