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Man to sue parents for “giving birth to him”

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A 27-year-old Indian man plans to sue his parents for giving birth to him without his consent.

Mumbai businessman Raphael Samuel told the BBCthat it’s wrong to bring children into the world because they then have to put up with lifelong suffering.

Mr Samuel, of course, understands that our consent can’t be sought before we are born, but insists that “it was not our decision to be born”.

So as we didn’t ask to be born, we should be paid for the rest of our lives to live, he argues.

A demand like this could cause a rift within any family, but Mr Samuel says he gets along very well with his parents (both of whom are lawyers) and they appear to be dealing with it with a lot of humour.

In a statement, his mother Kavita Karnad Samuel explained her response to “the recent upheaval my son has created”.

“I must admire my son’s temerity to want to take his parents to court knowing both of us are lawyers. And if Raphael could come up with a rational explanation as to how we could have sought his consent to be born, I will accept my fault,” she said.

Mr Samuel’s belief is rooted in what’s called anti-natalism – a philosophy that argues that life is so full of misery that people should stop procreating immediately.
This, he says, would gradually phase out humanity from the Earth and that would also be so much better for the planet.

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“There’s no point to humanity. So many people are suffering. If humanity is extinct, Earth and animals would be happier. They’ll certainly be better off. Also no human will then suffer. Human existence is totally pointless.”

A year ago, he created a Facebook page, Nihilanand, which features posters that show his images with a huge fake beard, an eye-mask and anti-natalist messages like “Isn’t forcing a child into this world and forcing it to have a career, kidnapping, and slavery?” Or, “Your parents had you instead of a toy or a dog, you owe them nothing, you are their entertainment.”
Mr Samuel says he remembers first having anti-natalist thoughts when he was five.

“I was a normal kid. One day I was very frustrated and I didn’t want to go to school but my parents kept asking me to go. So I asked them: ‘Why did you have me?’ And my dad had no answer. I think if he’d been able to answer, maybe I wouldn’t have thought this way.”

As the idea grew and took shape in his mind, he decided to tell his parents about it. He says his mum reacted “very well” and dad too “is warming up” to the idea.
“Mum said she wished she had met me before I was born and that if she did, she definitely wouldn’t have had me,” he says laughing and adds that she does see reason in his argument.

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“She told me that she was quite young when she had me and that she didn’t know she had another option. But that’s what I’m trying to say – everyone has the option.”

In her statement, his mother also said it was unfair to focus on a “sliver of what he believes in”.

“His belief in anti-natalism, his concern for the burden on Earth’s resources due to needless life, his sensitivity toward the pain experienced unwittingly by children while growing up and so much more has been ruefully forgotten.

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“I’m very happy that my son has grown up into a fearless, independent-thinking young man. He is sure to find his path to happiness.”

Mr Samuel says his decision to take his parents to court is only based on his belief that the world would be a much better place without human beings in it.

So six months ago, one day at breakfast, he told his mother that he was planning to sue her. “She said that’s fine, but don’t expect me to go easy on you. I will destroy you in court.” Mr Samuel is now looking for a lawyer to take up his case, but so far he’s not had much success.
“I know it’s going to be thrown out because no judge would hear it. But I do want to file a case because I want to make a point.”

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His Facebook posts have also attracted a lot of responses, “some positive, but mostly negative” with some even advising him to “go kill yourself”. He has also had worried mums asking him what would happen if their children see his posts.

“Some argue logically, some are offended and some are offensive. To those abusing me, let them abuse me. But I also hear from many who say they support me but can’t say this publicly for whatever reasons. I ask them to come out and speak up,” he says.

His critics also say that he’s doing this to get some publicity.

“I’m not really doing this for publicity,” he says, “but I do want the idea to go public. This simple idea that it’s okay to not have a child.”

I ask him if he is unhappy being born.

“I wish I was not born. But it’s not that I’m unhappy in my life. My life is good, but I’d rather not be here. You know it’s like there’s a nice room, but I don’t want to be in that room,” he explains.

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Widow recounts last moments with Jimmy Wayuni

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Widow of Kikuyu Benga Musician Jimmy Walter Githinji aka Jimmy Wayuni, who died Tuesday night in a car crash, says her husband was in high spirits the day he died.

Rosemary Wambui, 37, told Nairobi News at Kahawa Sukari Police Post where she had gone to record a statement, that the last conversation she had with her husband was on Tuesday morning as she left for work.

“On Tuesday morning, I left for work and left my husband back at home. He was in a jovial mood and nothing seemed unusual,” Ms Wambui said, flanked by her friends.

She said she got worried when it reached at around 9.30 pm on Tuesday and Mr Githinji had not returned home.

“I got worried after calling his line persistently and he was not picking yet it was ringing. His mobile phone later went off completely. I suspected that something was not ok,” she added

She said on Wednesday morning, she received a call from her friends who informed her that her husband had perished in a car crash.

The wreckage of benga artiste Jimmy Wayuni Githinji's car at the scene of the road accident. PHOTO | COURTESY
The wreckage of benga artiste Jimmy Wayuni Githinji’s car at the scene of the road accident. PHOTO | COURTESY

“He was a loving husband and a father. I have not believed he is gone. A very generous man. I have lost a gentleman,’’ she said

Ms Wambui said they had been blessed with two children.

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The musician’s vehicle a Toyota Ipsum rammed a lorry at Kahawa Sukari near Githurai 45, as he headed to Nairobi from Ruiru, Kiambu county to drop a fellow musician home.

Ruiru OCPD Phineas Ringera on Wednesday told Nairobi News by telephone that the musician was trying to exit from Thika Road Super Highway and enter the service lane that leads to Githurai 45 when he hit a lorry from behind.

“What we have gathered so far is that the said musician was heading from Ruiru to Nairobi. He tried to exit the Super Highway at Kahawa Sukari and join the service lane that leads to Githurai 45 when he rammed into a lorry,” Mr Ringera said.

“He was seriously injured and was rushed to St Joseph Hospital where he passed on while undergoing treatment,” said the police boss.

Mr Ringera said the deceased’s body was transferred to Kenyatta University Funeral Home.

The musician is well known for his hit song ‘Airitu a Ruiru’ which translates to ‘Ruiru Girls’. In the song, he castigates them for being exploitative and manipulative.

His mangled vehicle was towed to Kahawa Sukari Police Post.

Fellow musician Kamande wa Kioi told Nairobi News that the deceased was escorting a fellow musician home by the name Jack Sam Kibandi, who resides in Githurai 45, when the accident happened.

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The said musician was treated and discharged from hospital.

“Jimmy was taking a fellow Musician home using his car who resides in Githurai 45 and it’s when he was trying to branch from Thika Superhighway at Kahawa Sukari that he rammed into a lorry from behind,” said the artiste

Mr Kioi said the two were coming from Ruiru bypass where the deceased lives with his family.

By NN

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Why I offered a helping boob to my niece

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Breast milk is the perfect food for babies in their first six months of life. But if, for whatever reason, you are unable to breastfeed your baby, would you hand the task over to another woman?

To many, this is unheard off Actually breastfeeding someone else’s baby, known as wet nursing, is unthinkable for some mothers. This is exactly the same thought that Joan Iravwezi Shamwama had in December 2016 when she was diagnosed with stage one stomach cancer and was under medication.

Since she literally produced no breast milk and her baby Darionne was five months then, her husband decided to introduce baby formula to supplement the little breast milk she was getting. However, things didn’t work out well. The baby lost so much weight such that she became underweight. The family was also running out of money faster as they also had medical bills to pay.

However, her sister-in- law, Doreen Mulinya, who had given birth at the same time with Joan couldn’t sit and watch her niece suffer In this case, she decided to offer a helping boob. While her sister-in-law was taking her medication she assumed her niece’s feeding responsibilities.

 

Fulfilling endeavour

“The decision to wet nurse was something we discussed just as a possibility with my sister Sheila Mulinya before we travelled home for December holiday. It wasn’t serious at first, but my sister made me open up my mind by talking about old women who would breastfeed their grandchildren when the mums passed on,” says Doreen.

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Seeing her in-law too weak to breastfeed [by then they were staying together in their mother’s house) it became a no brainer, Doreen had to do it.

“I usually have excess milk. Since I was healthy, I had no objection. At first Joan was shocked since she had not seen it before and she thought

that the baby won’t agree to feed from a stranger,” Doreen recalls.

According to Joan, seeing her daughter breastfeed normally was the best feeling ever. She had wished to exclusively breastfeed her daughter for six months. “I was so happy seeing her breastfeed though not from me. I thank God her aunt was there to play my role,” says Joan.

It was not easy for Doreen to breastfeed the two girls at first. Her baby couldn’t allow Darionne to feed. The children had to learn how to share since all of them were born as singlet. The other challenge was that since her niece had been starved of breast milk for a while, she used to pull, bite and kick because she couldn’t believe that she was feeding again.

“I had to endure the bites and kicks, but deep down, it was really fulfilling. It also made me become closer to my in-law and niece, and my brother too,” says Doreen.

Joan Iravwezi, her sister-in-law Doreen Mulinya and babies Darionne and Na’delle. Doreen breastfed her sister-in-law’s baby after cancerdiagnosis. BELOW: Darionne and Na’delle PD/MILLIAM MURIGI

Extra care

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After one week, the family started seeing positive changes on Darionne. One month later, when both parted ways after the holiday, the baby had regained her weight and was ready to start weaning as recommended by World Health Organisation.

“I wish I could have done it longer, but I had to come back to Nairobi to work. But this is something I can definitely do again and again.

I usually have excess milk, so it’s a relief to me. The problem is having the mother to trust me,” says Doreen.

According to Joan, she would recommend wet nursing to women who are unable to breastfeed their children for one reason or another.

It is thought that wet nursing started in ancient times when a mother died during child birth and another woman breastfed and raised the baby. This was, especially so in some African cultures where maternal and child mortality was high.

Most African families were polygamous, and if one of the mothers in the family fell ill or died during childbirth, it was the duty of her co-wives to nurse and bring up the child.

Wet nursing has also been linked to social class, where monarchies, the aristocracy, nobility or upper classes had their children wet-nursed for the benefit of the child’s health, and sometimes in the hope of the mother becoming pregnant again quickly.

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Experts argue that there is no reason why women should not feed more than one child simultaneously. Even women who are not lactating or do not have children can still breastfeed. Regular breast suckling can elicit milk production through a neural reflex action. Some adoptive mothers have also been able to establish lactation using a breast pump.

However, there has been growing concerns about milk sharing because some medical conditions such as hepatitis B, tuberculosis and most importantly HIV/Aids pose a great risk to the child if the wet nurse happens to be infected. This calls for extra care and precaution while choosing a wet nurse.

By People Daily

 

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GOFUNDME: Kindly help Jackie Koli bury her mom and get justice

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Jackie Koli’s mom, Beatrice Wanjiku Gitura (pictured above), was murdered in cold blood after she went missing on Friday, May 22, 2020.
On Saturday May 23rd, her body was found in her car a few Kilometers from Embu Town.  Her throat had been slit, hands tied with a rope and a piece of cloth tied across her mouth. It was double tragedy since the sister to her mom (Jackie’s auntie) passed on the same day- Friday morning after battling with cancer.Jackie, an only child, needs our financial support as she prepares to bury her mom and seek justice. Any help will be highly appreciated.

Kindly donate here via Gofundme

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