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Victor Wambua, 24, had no funds to correct his hearing and has had to adjust to a world of silence. By AGNES AINEAH

One morning in July 2017, I woke up in my room at Daystar University hostels, tuned the radio to my favourite station but no sound came on. It was eerily silent. Then I realised that it was me.  I couldn’t hear a thing.  I had battled hearing problems before and I had a hearing aid and could hear very well but on this day, it didn’t seem to be helping.

And I panicked. It was so upsetting not being able to hear anything and I remember sending a text to my family members telling them I couldn’t hear anymore and that they should respond via text. They came to pick me up and took me to Kenyatta National Hospital where medical tests revealed that the internal function of both ears was destroyed and medics prescribed a surgery to correct the situation.When I was two, I am told, I developed problems with my left ear.

It was oozing pus before it began losing hearing. I was put on some sort of medication at a hospital in Kitui and given a hearing aid.With the aid, I led a very fulfilling childhood. I was even able to attend school with normal children. Save for the fact that I always sought to occupy front seat in class, learning was perfect and I qualified for direct entry to university.

Delicate surgery

Surgery, the surgeons admitted, was risky. It was going to be a very delicate operation since the damaged inner ear is near the brain. The damaged parts, they said, were those responsible for converting sound into electrical impulses which are then sent to the brain for interpretation. The doctors explained that the surgery, for its complicated nature, would be very expensive too. They said it would cost Sh3 million, a sum which was way out of reach for my family then and now.

Living with it

With no medication to help, I have resorted to adapting to my condition and using the best techniques I can to communicate with people around me. Before I left school in December last year, I belonged to many WhatsApp groups where I got as much information as possible concerning the happenings around school. I also took the contacts of all my lecturers and consulted with them after classes since I couldn’t hear anything they said. It was tough for me since I had not learnt any sign language. I was therefore always running up and down to catch up with the rest.I am always on my phone, because chats have replaced the talking I used to do.

Whenever I wish to say anything, I send a text and I have to wait for a reply. Some of my close friends and family members sometimes have to carry a pen and paper to write me messages. I have also learnt to lip-read people to get what they say. It is a skill I am learning very fast.I try as much as possible to avoid group discussions. A while ago, I used to feel bad not being able to understand what my friends were saying in group conversations. I felt left out. Then I realised it wasn’t anyone’s fault that I couldn’t catch up and started avoiding them.

I can only talk to one person at a time at the moment and that person must must also give undivided attention to our conversation.I no longer go to crowded places and church gatherings because there is nothing I can hear that makes sense to me. I take a lot of caution going to new places that require being shown around. I therefore have to be in constant communication with whoever I am visiting. I also don’t watch movies unless they have sub-titles.

An ignored computer whizz

The toughest challenge for me has been getting a job after I graduated. Not many people believe that I can beat my hearing challenge and deliver at my job. It is hard convincing them that I am good in many things including photography, handling social media, managing websites, data entry and communicating with clients via mail. When I lost hearing in campus, I was withdrawn and led a very silent life where computers were my best friends. I taught myself so many things.


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Woman writes list of tips for ex’s new girlfriend



While many people have absolutely no interest in seeing their ex after a break up, others are determined to stay friends.

It can be extremely difficult as the nature of the relationship changes, but one of the hardest parts is watching your ex move on with someone else.

But one woman went to extreme lengths to help her former partner, Jacob, when it came to his new girlfriend – writing her a list of tips and advice for being with him.

As well as listing some of his favourite things – including the colour red, Corona and 1800 liquor – she also listed things she should avoid.

She also gave some advice on being his girlfriend, including ignoring negative gossip about him and not being offended when he just sits in front of the TV all night.

She offered tips on hanging around with his mates and warned her to never finish a Netflix series without him.

She also gave details on their relationship, including the date of their first meeting.

Jacob shared the list on Twitter, and people don’t really know what to make of it.


Many people were slightly freaked out by the whole thing, saying that some of the points suggest serious red flags.

One wrote: “If someone I was dating gave me a letter from their ex we would immediately be finished. I would not date anyone who tweets this garbage either.”


Another commented: “That’s like the kinda list I write when someone has to look after my cat because it can’t look after itself – not a grown ass man.”

One man commented: “Any woman would be lucky to avoid.”

Another pointed out one particularly worrying line, saying: “You will constantly hear negative things about him from other people.” Omg lol! I missed that on the first read through. All you need to know right there.”

One woman wrote: “She knows that much about you because she paid attention because she loved you enough to want to know everything about you. I wish at least ONE of the guys I’ve ever dated would’ve taken the time to know even half of this about me. This kinda stuff doesn’t happen often enough.”



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Mum shares honest photos of post-baby body to help other mothers



These brutally honest photos have been shared to help new mums embrace their figures and understand it’s “okay to hate the way they look” after giving birth.

Chantelle Donnelly posted the pictures online of her own post-baby body which she called “disgusting”.

And she wrote on Instagram, women shouldn’t “have to feel great” about the way they look.

“Why should I have to love my body? Because it grew two humans?

“Yes, I’m very proud of my body because it’s been through so much in the last few years,” the mum posted.

“But does being proud of my body mean that I have to love the way it looks? Hell no. When I look in the mirror I don’t love what I see, but I’m not sad about that.

“You don’t need to feel pressured into loving your body and it’s OK if you don’t. Love your body? I’m so happy that you do.

“But don’t love your body? That’s alright too.”

Chantelle, understood to be from Australia, also wrote a heartwarming post on her blog The Losing Mumma , in which she admitted she has ” cellulite , stretch marks ,loose skin breastfeeding boobs and a mum tum”.

But the blogger stressed it is “absolutely fine” to hate all these things and mothers don’t need to pretend not to.

Readers have admired Chantelle’s honesty and posted their support on Instagram.

“Your body is not disgusting – it is beautiful and amazing,” one woman wrote.

“I fully support this,” said another. “Posting pictures of my body is something I could never do. You are beautiful for that.”

source:The Mirror

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Kanze Dena narrates how she used to wash clothes, dishes to earn a living



State House spokesperson Kanze Dena on Wednesday revealed that she has done several menial jobs before getting to where she is right now.

Speaking during an interview on Ghetto Radio, Dena urged youths not to be choosy when it comes to jobs, noting that most people start from humble beginnings.

She further stated that she once worked at her grandfather’s cafeteria where she used to peel potatoes before scaling up to become a waitress.

“There are a number of opportunities for the youth in our country. The Government is emphasizing on technical training to ensure the youth have the skills required for various jobs.

“There are various projects the Government is undertaking under the #Big4Agenda across the country. These projects require skilled labor where our youth can get job opportunities, even as the Government works on a long term solution,” she said.

Dena had good news for the youth as she revealed that the government was in the process of creating a database where young people will be linked up with jobs that fit their qualifications.

“The Government is also creating a database through the National Employment Authority where the youth can register so that they can be linked up with jobs that fit their profiles whenever these jobs come up,” she added.

On the employment opportunities created by the Standard Gauge Railway, the State House spokesperson noted that many youths got jobs inside the trains and as taxi operators from the two main termini.

“President Kenyatta has the best interest of the youth at heart. He is working hard to ensure the right policies and environment for the youth to prosper,” she remarked.


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