Connect with us

Entertainment

When online Mafisi crush on your spouse

Published

on

Frankie and Maureen

“I love your lips. “You look so yummy!” “So sexy. Would you be mine?”… If you thought these cheesy love lines are from a lover, you are wrong. In fact, the people involved are strangers and the person being addressed is taken. The platform? Social media. So, what do you do when people openly declare their love for your partner in front of your eyes?

Francis Kiarie aka Frankie of Just Gym It, who runs a YouTube channel Alpha Beta, with his wife Maureen Waititu, says online crushes are not a strange thing. Flowever, overtime he has learnt to ignore them. Flowever, some are difficult to deal with, so he blocks them. The most annoying are gay men who outrightly hit on him. “It is so annoying. I wonder why people cannot respect that I’m married, respect my space and just leave me alone,” he says.

Frankie and Maureen

Frankie and Maureen

Many followers

FI is wife, Maureen, says the hardest bit of living a life online is having to deal with disrespectful people without boundaries. “I once had to deal with a woman, who was crushing on Frankie. The stalker went to an extent of creating a pseudo account and kept on messaging me on how Frank will leave me, claiming they had a relationship,” she recalls.

READ ALSO:   Kabi wa Jesus and Terence Creative beefing?

The couple are open to one another and share their experiences. “Our line of communication is always open. When crushes become too much, we block them,” she adds.

Having many followers means getting our online posts viewed. No wonder, many couples in the limelight such as musicians, journalists, leaders, among others, are bound to face such issues. And while back in the days, it was almost impossible to be in touch with your crush, social media has brought them closer. The anonymity of it makes it even worse, because some admirers use pseudo accounts to post and comment their hearts out.

Radio personality Anita Nderu, also knows this too well. “Sometimes I go through my comment section and just laugh. But I’m happy they don’t get into my love or me. He trusts me. So when he sees those suggestive comments on my posts, he just ignores them,” she says. However, when it gets worse, Anita doesn’t hesitate to press the block button.

Peter Kabi alias Kabi Wa Jesus, founder of Bantu Films, a videography and photography company, says he and his wife Milly wa Jesus do not entertain suggestive comments on their social media platforms. “We only appreciate those great comments we get from fan love,” says Kabi.

READ ALSO:   It’s a new season! Size 8 takes up new TV role from YouTuber, Maureen Waititu

However, he says whenever he sees suggestive comments on his wife’s post, he ignores them. “It is okay to get comments, especially if you are in the limelight. But of course, we know some comments are not meant for good,” he says.

Peter Kabi and his wife Milly wa Jesus have learnt not to entertain suggestive comments on their posts.

Peter Kabi and his wife Milly wa Jesus have learnt not to entertain suggestive comments on their posts.

But not all are understanding of the situation. Despite being open with her husband, Jasmine Wambui says every suggestive comment or compliment she gets irks her husband. “On many occasions, we talk about understanding each other and how it would be great if trust was built between us. But he still raises questions,” she says. One day it got worse and she had to delete some comments. “I delete suggestive comments to date. I do not want to have issues with my husband,” she says.

Uninvited spectators

Ken Ouko, a sociologist at University of Nairobi, says social media has created a new dilemma in human relations known as ‘existential in congruence’. “Social media has today invited a new complication in domestic or romantic relationships. It has replaced relational exclusivity with uninvited spectatorship. Instagram, for example, makes it appear as if relationships are on a thespian stage complete with a clap-or-boo audience,” he says.

READ ALSO:   ‘Quarantine?’ Fans question Corazon Kwamboka and Maureen Waititu’s ex Frankie

Also, in many instances, Ouko says saturated positive reviews may cause the other partner to feel relegated, ignored or shadowed, sometimes leading to jealousy. Intense negative reviews may carry the impact of causing the other partner to feel slighted, disrespected, offended or exposed, sometimes leading to doubts.

Ken Munyao, a psychologist at People Centric Management Company, says that is why it is good to try and moderate crushes through the posts you share. “It is not bad to have crushes because it means someone is admiring you. But how far does it go? How much do you entertain the person and do you let them know that there are boundaries?” he poses.

When you get crushes, it is good to reach out and tell them to stop, That is if they get in the way of your relationship. It is also good to declare your relationship online. “You need to come out and say you are taken. This way, maybe some would stop going too far. You will be able to stop jealousy through acknowledging,” he says.

source:People Daily

Click to comment

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Business

Boss Moves: Betty Kyallo breaks the internet a few days after leaving K24 TV

Published

on

Betty Kyallo is one of the most loved and supported celebrities around thanks to her supporters #TeamBetty.

The media personality who recently hit 2 million followers on Instagram has broken another internet record.

Betty started a YouTube channel two weeks ago and she has amassed 44.7k subscribers already, making her the first Kenyan to gain such subscribers in a short period of time.

She has been sharing videos of her personal life and what she has been up to lately and they’re going viral.

One of her fans identified as Fulasa also noted that Betty had ‘made it’

‘That channel guys… First Kenyan YouTuber to make such a record in just two weeks.. 44k and counting,’ he posted.

Betty, who is also one the most followed Kenyan media personality on Twitter with 822k followers, left K24 TV on May 30 after two years and she is currently focusing on her salon business. She has moved the location of her salon from the iconic FCB Mihrab to a bigger place in Kilimani.

Below is the instagram post she made of the new salon place.

https://www.instagram.com/p/CA3OJqoHxjo/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

In a previous interview with Mpasho.co.ke, while speaking about her salon, she said

Thank God for the hard work I’ve put in. Apart from giving birth to my daughter Ivanna, I don’t think there’s any other thing I have put more effort in like Flair by Betty. It’s where my heart and all investments are. Because of the passion and dedication that the team at Flair has put in, it’s been a fantastic start, and I thank God.

By Mpasho.co.ke,

READ ALSO:   It’s a new season! Size 8 takes up new TV role from YouTuber, Maureen Waititu
Continue Reading

Entertainment

Sh60 million house: At home with Ringtone

Published

on

Ringtone, this gospel star that has brought you hits like Muziki ni Dawa, Gospel Inabamba, Maisha and last year’s massive hit Tenda Wema has a larger-than-life image.

Aside from his state-of- the-art rides, he boasts a maisonette in the leafy suburbs of Runda. However, this time round Pulse sneaks into his other home in Karen, a ten-bedroom crib, where we do the quick fire.

Pulse: This property is worth more than Sh60 million which could really be a huge sum for an artiste. Just how did you acquire it?

Ringtone: That is a good question. The owner had actually abandoned this property for years and so by the time I was getting the house, the prize had depreciated. I had to do a lot to bring it to its current state.
One of the bedrooms

P: How big is the land it stands on?

R: This is a half an acre.

P: You are still young and single: How on earth do you use ten bedrooms?

R: (Laughs): It is rather obvious that I cannot sleep in ten different bedrooms. As you might be aware, I support a number of children homes and so to raise money for that, when I get foreign guests, I allow them to stay over for bed and breakfast and then the proceeds I get from that I put into charity.

READ ALSO:   It’s a new season! Size 8 takes up new TV role from YouTuber, Maureen Waititu

P: What stands out most…for you?

R: I should say everything stands-out. Every bedroom is different from the other in terms of design and the furniture we have in there.

I have a Jacuzzi in my master bedroom as well as a reading area, which I have also converted into prayer room. The bathtubs are also modern.

A view of the living room from the dining room

P: We notice that the living room as well as the dining area is colourful. What informed that design aspect?

R: I have a professional designer who fits everything. Basically, like I have said, you will get a different mood in every room.

Living room

P: Why won’t you use the house for showbiz; like put up a studio or a music school?

P: This is a home and I live in a residential area where we don’t allow such. The only time I have many visitors coming in is when I am throwing a party for the children I support.

P: Is this your dream home?

R: I thank God for this property and I continue to believe him for better. He says in his word; “Ask and you shall be given…seek and you shall find…”

By Pulse

Continue Reading

Entertainment

Comedian Felix Odiwuor alias Jalang’o has given fans a glimpse at his luxurious Nairobi mansion. “I got a chance to come home much earlier today, it’s looking good

Published

on

Comedian Felix Odiwuor alias Jalang’o has given fans a glimpse at his luxurious Nairobi mansion.

Through a series of instagram stories video, Jalang’o, who’s also a radio host at Milele FM offered a glimpse at his affluent home.

The comedian started by showing his sizeable compound complete with a beautiful garden and a small farm.

“I got a chance to come home much earlier today, it’s looking good,” he is heard narrating in the background.

As he pans the camera, a one-story mansion is seen in the background, neighboured by an equally majestic mansion.

The comedian’s affluent home.

Side hustle

Jalang’o also took the chance to introduce his side hustle.

“I am hustler like that,” said Jalas before showing over 40 crates.

“I know most of you didn’t know that I sell eggs. If you need eggs, let me know; I’ll supply as many crates as you want.”

By SDE

READ ALSO:   Celebrity breakups that made us realize Couple goals is a SCAM- List
Continue Reading

Trending

error: Content is protected !!