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Size 8: miscarriage nearly broke my marriage

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Gospel singer Size 8 has revealed how her miscarriage in 2018 almost ended her marriage with DJ Mo.

In an interview with Parents magazine, the singer admitted that the experience taught her the value of life, family and friends.

“The miscarriage really affected us. We fought a lot and we blamed each other since we did not know how to deal with it. It was very bad; but with our son, we were able to come together and support each other,” she said.

Despite the tragic nature of the miscarriage, in the end, she says, it brought them closer as they leaned on each other for support during the difficult time.

“It has actually brought us closer as a couple, which is something we realised later,” she said.

Size 8 said that she opened up about the miscarriage, but her husband was very quiet and did not talk about the topic at all but inside, the experience was hurting him too.

Their marriage was not perfect

“When you lose a baby, things change. It was very hard on me but I knew I had to be strong for Linet (Size 8) and Wambo. If we let our grieving take over, it would have affected Wambo because we wouldn’t be able to give her attention,” explained the seasoned gospel DJ.

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The couple said their marriage was not perfect. What made it work was their relationship with God.

“Even before you try to resolve issues, the fear of God helps you see where you have gone wrong and it makes solving things easier. We’ve also learnt to see our mistakes first before pointing out the speck,” the mother of two said.

She also admitted that after the marriage, she did not want to submit to her husband.

The couple got married in their twenties and submission was one problem she was struggling with, Size 8 said.

“I’m an alpha female and I had the wrong concept of submission so we had a couple of fights over it. To me, it sounded like slavery,” she said.

However, after talking to JCC pastor Rev. Kathy Kiuna, she understood submission was about recognising the power and importance of her husband’s role in marriage.

“Reverend Kathy Kiuna explained to me that it was simply about recognizing the authority of my husband as the head of the home. I think I just lacked the wisdom on how to handle things,” said the Mateke hit-maker.

On the other hand, DJ Mo was also having issues while trying to adapt to marriage life. He had to learn to share his thoughts with his wife without holding back.

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“I never used to open up, even when we had issues. I was not mature enough to realise that the wall I had put up also affected my partner. There are just some things you learn when you are in the marriage,” the DJ said.

Size 8 said the marriage was easier when they did not have children but now that they do, they are happier as a family.

“They bring us joy but it has also been a tough balancing act to be able to have time for them and also for themselves as a couple. It needs a lot of wisdom from God to crack it,” said the gospel artiste.

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VIDEO: Police clash with rival groups over running of public toilets in CBD

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Police officers were on Monday forced to use tear gas to quell chaos that rocked the Nairobi Central Business District (CBD) after rival groups clashed over the management of public toilets.

Members of the public were caught in the melee and were unable to access some public toilets in the CBD after armed officers were deployed to prevent rowdy youth from accessing the facilities.

A group from Starehe Constituency claimed they were being arm-twisted to surrender toilets by two groups from Eastleigh and Dandora with the help of close allies of the Nairobi governor.

“I build this toilet, and when the Sonko regime came into power. Unknown people were going round trying to take over the toilets,” said Wangeci ‘Simba’, a public toilet owner in the CBD.

Other owners described how some groups were using police officers to forcefully evict them.

“These groups from Eastleigh and Dandora have been threatening us and using police to fake charges against us yet we have all documents to show that we are the rightful managers of this toilet,” they said.

At some point the police were forced to lob teargas canisters to disperse the irate crowds spoiling for a fight.

Calm was later restored after the arrival of Central Police OCS who engaged the warring faction.

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Since 2018, there has been a back and forth in the city over the running of the toilets since governor Mike Sonko threatened to take and hand them over to City Hall if the private entities failed to end their constant infighting.

The Starehe Constituency group has now called on Nairobi Metropolitan Services boss Major General Mohammed Badi to pick out the legitimate group that will run and operate the toilets.

“We are tired of these fights, let Badi solve this stalemate once and for all because we pay taxes and we have court documents protecting our group from victimisation,” they added.

The public toilet industry in Nairobi rakes in more than a billion shillings every year and is controlled by a few groups and individuals that operate like cartels.

Fights for their control are common and vicious as the groups jostle for a share of the money.

Nairobi County government said there are 68 public toilets in the city with 17 located within the CBD.

They are operated under the public-private partnership that came into effect in 1999 when the defunct Nairobi City Council engaged the business community to find a solution to the deplorable conditions of the facilities.

Many others were privatised during the regime of Nairobi’s first governor Evans Kidero.

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Dr Kidero said the toilets were privatised because City Hall had no capacity to run them.

The operators were to charge a small fee for maintenance of the 517 private toilets spread across the county, mainly in the city centre, estates and markets.

A single toilet in the CBD and markets that charges Sh10 per visit can collect as much as Sh30,000 in a day while those in the estates realise between Sh1,000 and Sh3,000.

From 63 public toilets, it is estimated that more than Sh1.9 million is collected every day translating to Sh56.7 million in a month and more than Sh680 million in a year.

The 517 private ones, with an average daily collection of Sh2,000, bring in Sh1 million every day, over Sh31 million every month and Sh372 million in a year.

This money explains why the public toilet sector is fiercely guarded with even politicians once in a while being roped in to protect the operators.

The toilets are managed by individuals, youth groups, women groups and the Central Business Hawkers Association and some are run by supporters of influential city politicians, who claims to have constructed several toilets years back.

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Murang’a farmer finds fortune in rare sweet potato varieties

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It is harvest time at Wambui Kiragu sweet potato farm when we visit. Wambui, popularly known as Sara Murimi, grows premium orange and purplefleshed sweet potatoes in a two-acre family farm in Mugumo-ini, Kirimiri sublocation of Maragua, Murang’a county.

Her farming journey started right after she completed her university studies in 2014, when she began growing onions and capsicum, then ventured into paw paw and water melon business.

However, the learning curve was steep as she had underrated some factors, such as consistent availability of water, the cost and quality of labour and security. As a result, she lost a whole crop of onions when her water pump broke down and her water melon field was cleared by thieves a night before harvesting.

As a ‘telephone-farmer’ (farmers who remotely run the farm via the telephone), her farm manager would also connive with agrovet shops to inflate prices and volume of inputs. Tired of all these challenges, she decided to take a break to reflect. “When I ventured into farming I had big dreams.

But I wish I knew better. I wouldn’t have started with the so-called high value crops. I would have chosen a crop, such as sweet potatoes, which allows one to learn at a fair pace before upgrading,” recounts Wambui.

She tried her luck in the farm again two years later, but this time round, she settled on sweet potatoes, which are not labour intensive and don’t require a lot of farm inputs and water, have distinct harvesting time and good market value. She went for the orange-fleshed variety know for its nutrious value.

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This variety is packed with betacarotene, an important vitamin good for eyesight and the purplefleshed variety that has anti-cancer nutrient called anthocyanin.

Rare varieties

“I did extensive research on these two varieties and I could clearly see their untapped potential.

I also realised that the two varieties were not widely available thus making them more expensive compared with other varieties,” she recounts.

Her next step was to visit the Kenya Plant Health Inspectorate Service (KEPHIS) for her seedlings as well as advise on the agronomy of growing sweet potatoes. KEPHIS runs a tissue culture lab of sweet potatoes to ensure that farmers get clean and disease-free planting materials. And the plant didn’t disappoint. Three and half months later, it was ready for harvesting. At first she had challenges marketing the orange-fleshed sweet potatoes because her customers, mainly her neighbours would over-cook them and then report that they were soggy, impacting her sales. She had to introduce cooking lessons to them and since then the business is growing, leading to another challenge!

The capacity to meet the quality and quantity requirements. “On quantity, I am still unable to provide consistent volumes to meet the demands of my regular clients, but am working hard to expand the farm since the demand is there,” she says. And to ensure she minimises on postharvest losses, she says that she harvests her produce once the leaves and end of the vines start turning yellow because if sweet potatoes overstay in the soil, they can be attacked by weevils, which make grooves on the tubers thus lowering their market quality.

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Apart from that, if the tuber overstays in the soil, they also become too big, which is not desirable by the market.

Online marketting

Wambui says that her biggest clientele are her neighbours in Nairobi, whe she lives and works as aresearcher in urban food systems. She markets the potatos through their neighborhood resident association’s WhatsApp group and also sells through social media platforms, the likes of Digital Farmers Kenya.

She has also linked up with a trader who arranges home grocery deliveries and picks 100kgs every week. She is currently trying to link up with restaurants as they slowly start picking up from the impacts of Covid-19. Wambui, who graduated with an environmental studies degree and has a broad experience in sustainable agriculture, says that her plan is to go into processing and provide a market for farmers. And to ensure this is a success, especially when it comes to quantity, she has started distributing vines to her neighbours in Kirimiri SubLocation for free.

She also sells the vines at a nominal fee and so far, she has a network of farmers in

over 25 counties who have bought and are planting the purple-fleshed variety. “With the new craze of no-wheat diet, I want to make a difference in people’s diet as they try to cut on wheat consumption and go back to traditional foods. I wish that every farming household grows these nutritious varieties of sweet potatoes.

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In providing a market, I will be able to make a difference in women farmers lives.” To her orange-fleshed sweet potatoes fetches a better market because it can be used in different recipes.

Apart from the normal way of boiling and eating, it can also be used to make chapati, mandazi, doughnuts, chips, crisps among other meals. For the purplefleshed variety, the brillant colour and health benefits command a higher price, opening a potentially profitable niche market.

Her advise to anyone wishing to venture into farming is that they should carefully choose their learning curve.

“Do not start with the so-called high value crops because chances of starting with failure are high. Sweet potatoes allow you to learn more than the actual agronomy of a crop, for instance, labor management, marketing and so on,” she offers
THE GENESIS

• Wambui comes from a family with a farming background. She owes her success in farming to her supportive parents.

• Her father is an agricultural economist and guides her to think more about gross margins than hobby farming.

• Wambui is a telephone farmer and works on part-time basis as a researcher in urban food systems.

• She is an environmental studies graduate.
• She sells the sweet potatoes at Sh100 per kg and the vines at Sh10 per vine.

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Loving husband asks wife to put legs on table as he serves her food

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A Nigerian lady identified as Comfort Oroboghene has revealed how her husband ordered her to sit down and put her leg on the table while he served her food.

Husband asks wife to put leg on the table as he serves her food

The lovebirds got married in August. Photo credit: Yabaleft
Source: UGC

Comfort, who got married in August, took to Twitter to narrate how she went home hastily so as to prepare dinner for her husband.

She said on getting home, her husband laughed at her and ordered her to maintain a relaxing position for her meal to be served.

According to Comfort, her husband asked her if she thought he was part of the generation that sees cooking as the sole responsibility of the woman.

She wrote:

“Ran home early to cook and this man laughed at me.

“You think you’re married to a man from the other generation. Sit down and put leg on the table, let me serve you jhor.

“It’s been 30 mins and he’s still laughing at me. Someone I said I should pity coz he went to market.”

Below are some of the reactions to the post:

A Twitter user with the handle @vickelokorie prayed for the couple to have everlasting joy in their marriage.

Another Twitter user asked if there was anyone who detested such enjoyment.

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Below are other comments:

In other news, A curvy beautiful lady on Twitter with the handle Adethayorr went online to ask men to woo her if they are interested in her.

In a Twitter post on Friday, September 25, she boldly asked people to shoot their shots, telling them that there may just be hope for one person.

Attaching two beautiful pictures of herself, she made her call for a partner a perfect one.

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