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Man who married at 21 after wife rejected him thrice breaks down 11 years love

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You have often heard the wise saying marriage is not a bed of roses and going by the rising divorce numbers in Kenya, this statement could not be any truer.

By the end of 2019, Milimani Law Courts’ civil registry, which registers divorces recorded 1,109 divorces and in January and February 2020 alone, 244 divorces had already been filed.

Kenyan man who married at 21 narrates high and lows of marriage 11 years down the line

Robert and his wife Lucy tied the knot in their early 20’s. Photo: Ndungu Nyoro.
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But for Robert and Lucy, they chose to stick to each other even in moments when divorce seemed like it was the easy way out and their love story left many inspired that indeed, marriage works.

How they met

Speaking to philanthropist Ndungu Nyoro in his popular segment dubbed #inspirationThursday, Robert admitted he grew up a shy boy and was even convinced, at some point in his life, that he was never meant for relationship and love.

“I also had this deep feeling it had to do with my physical appearance, as I was really thin and broke as well. Honestly, it was tough to get a girlfriend,” he narrated.

Kenyan man who married at 21 narrates high and lows of marriage 11 years down the line

The man and woman grew up in Kayole and went to similar schools. Photo: Ndungu Nyoro.
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His love for Lucy was not hard to come by given they grew up in the same hood in Kayole, but they lost contact when his now wife’s family relocated to another area.

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The universe was definitely conspiring for them to be together because they both bumped into each other in 2007 in a matatu and exchanged contacts to keep in touch.

By this time, the young Robert was not stable financially to afford expensive dates but would invite the young lady into his place for lunch and dinner.

He had also started getting attracted to his beautiful childhood friend, who was a small business owner in Ngara by then.

Kenyan man who married at 21 narrates high and lows of marriage 11 years down the line

Lucy turned down Robert’s proposal three times but she eventually accepted. Photo: Ndungu Nyoro.
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Robert gathered couraged and asked Lucy to his girlfriend and he was instead slapped with a huge “NO” by the lady who wanted to concentrate on building herself first.

“I asked her for the second time and she said ‘NO’ and that it couldn’t happen. My spirit was dampened and I felt like there was something so wrong with me,” he said.

Undeterred, Robert tried the third time to ask Lucy to be his and, your guess is as good as mine, he was met with another rejection.

They both started a studio business together and it was during their interactions in the shop that the relentless young man popped the question again and fortunately, the lady accepted to be his girlfriend.

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Kenyan man who married at 21 narrates high and lows of marriage 11 years down the line

They now own various businesses in Kigali Rwanda and their marriage is flourishing. Photo: Ndungu Nyoro.
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Marriage and challenges

Not long after that that the smitten couple, aged 20, for Lucy and Robert 21, tied the knot in a traditional wedding in 2009

They said though their parents were concerned about their young ages, they still supported them.

Their first hurdle in marriage was finances since their studio was not earning them much and secondly, Lucy had a troublesome first pregnancy.

After the birth of their child, Robert felt forsaken since Lucy’s attention was for the baby only and gradually, they started falling apart and they would even go for days without talking to each other.

Kenyan man who married at 21 narrates high and lows of marriage 11 years down the line

Robert said communication has helped them remain strong in their marriage. Photo: Ndungu Nyoro.
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Heated arguments

One time, when they had an argument, they almost completely gave up on the union but lucky for them, a neighbour intervened and they talked and decided to forgive each other.

Now, 11 years together and parents to two adorable boys, the couple are business owners of a consultancy firm in Kigali, Rwanda and other businesses and the best part is that their love has never been so alive as it is.

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For them, they do not regret marrying young and they said communication and openness have been some of the values that have kept their love strong for more than a decade.

“We don’t keep secrets, we prefer being open to each other. When it comes to finances and running the business, she does the budgets and planning,” he said.

by Tuko.co.ke

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Apply for KeNHA’s TVET scholarships, Waiguru tells Kirinyaga youth

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Kirinyaga Governor Anne Waiguru has challenged youth in her county to apply for scholarships being offered by the Kenya National Highways Authority (KeNHA) in selected technical and vocational education and training (TVET) institutions.

Ms Waiguru Monday revealed that KeNHA has chosen Sagana Technical Institute and Kaitheri Youth Polytechnic as training centres for the skills sponsored programme targeting young people living along the upcoming Kenol-Sagana-Marwa dual carriage way.

The governor noted that the training will improve chances of the youth getting road construction jobs. She added that she has lobbied the national government for 30 per cent of the slots to be reserved for Kirinyaga residents.

“For the youth who have been seeking jobs, this is an opportunity knocking at your doorsteps and you should seize it by enrolling yourselves in either of these two institutions,” she said.

In an advertisement, KeNHA indicated that those who qualify for the skills training must be aged between 18 and 35 years and should register with their KCSE or KCPE certificates. The successful candidates will each receive a scholarship for three terms which will cater for tuition fees and accommodation.

Sagana Technical Institute is offering carpentry, electrical wiring, masonry, welding and fabrication while Kaitheri Youth Polytechnic is offering motor vehicle mechanics, electrical installation grade three and hairdressing and beauty courses.

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According to the advert, applications are to be submitted to the Kirinyaga County commissioner’s office by November 3.

The upcoming 84-kilometre dual carriage highway is part of the Great North Road that connects Mombasa port to Addis Ababa through Nairobi, Isiolo and Moyale.

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Death of festivals dims Lamu hope to revive ailing tourism

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Maulid. Food and Expo. Art, yoga and kite festivals. These are just a few of a slew of art and culture experiences that Lamu County used to dish out to the world and which boosted its tourism profile.

Lamu Old Town, also known as “the island of festivals”, had a splendid array of events and festivals ranging from Eid-Ul-Adhar to the Lamu Fishing Competition, Lamu Art Festival, The Lamu Cultural Festival, Lamu Yoga Festival, the Kite Festival, Shella Hat Contest and the Lamu Painters Festival.

But these events were put on the back burner as the tourism sector took a nosedive.

Coming on the backdrop of the Mpeketoni terror attacks in 2014 that also hit tourism hard, hospitality industry players say the vital sector is in the doldrums and want the festivals reinstated. Speaking during a forum in Lamu at the weekend, hoteliers and other players questioned why the county government has not been keen in reviving the events.

Hotelier Salim Abubakar said the county’s tourism sector was on the decline after the festivals were lifted. He urged Governor Fahim Twaha to restore the events and revive the sector.

“All the festivals that were introduced in the calendar of events are crucial. They served to attract visitors, both domestic and international, to Lamu. We need them back so that the tourism sector can be improved,” he said.

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Marketing strategy

Former Lamu Tourism Association (LTA) deputy chairman Ghalib Alwy said the body, in partnership with the county tourism office started the festivals to attract more tourists. Mr Alwy said it is important that the events are retained.

“We launched those events as a marketing strategy for Lamu tourism. Through them, we were able to attract tourists from Kenya, East Africa and the world. This is after the terrorism attacks led to an almost 90 percent decline of the sector. It’s only through the festivals that tourists got the confidence to visit Lamu again. The events must be reinstated,” said Mr Alwy. Mr Mohamed Hassan noted that local tourism was still doing badly, attributing the situation to a section of foreign countries that are still having active travel advisories against their citizens visiting Lamu.

“The travel advisories still play a big role in scaring away tourists. We want as many festivals as possible as they have the ability to ensure the tourism climbs back on its feet,” said Mr Hassan.

Some of the festivals known and which are still being celebrated by many in Lamu includes the annual Lamu Cultural Festival that is marked between November and December, the Maulid Festival marked every January, New Year’s Dhow Race marked on January 1 and Eid Ul-Fitr marked every July.

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The festivals are said to attract more than 30,000 visitors from around the world.

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Concrete slum? Why Pipeline residents cover wet clothes with plastic bags

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Though the Government banned plastics a few years ago, residents of Pipeline are not about to let go of them.

Plastics come in handy to those living in flats whenever they air their clothes out to dry. They use plastic covers to protect their clothes from dust or water dripping from the upper floors.

Most of the flats are up to seventh or eighth floor, each house built with a balcony, where one can tie a clothes line. During dry spells, the place is so dusty that hanging clothes without a plastic cover is a waste of time. They gather so much dust and end up looking unwashed.

It is for this reason that almost every storeyed building here has plastic covers covering clothesline. This might look strange to an outsider but for residents it is a normal occurrence.  Enock Mutua, a caretaker in one of the flats, said the practice is common and that tenants do it to keep their clothes clean.

“Here, there are flats of up to eight floors and people wash at different times. Some people have clothes that shed colour, others do not properly wring out excess water from the clothes and if you do not cover your clothes, you might find them ruined or wet long after you washed them,” said Mutua.

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He added that when there are new apartments to be occupied, prospective tenants run for the top floors.

Love for top floors

“One is never sure unless you live in the top most floor. Some of the buildings have space on the roof tops for tenants to air clothes,” said Mutua.

He further said that many choose to put up with the “small problems” because houses are affordable.

“Most of the houses here are single rooms, bedsitters and one bedroom which range from Sh5,000 to Sh9,000,” said Mutua.

Derrick Chenge, a resident of Pipeline, said he would rather cover his clothes even if they stayed on the clothes line for three days than leave them uncovered to come and find them ruined.

“Have you seen the dust that is around here? I cannot allow it to go to my clothes, especially the white ones. I cover them all the time,” Chenge said.

He added that they were forced to do this because of insensitive neighbours who do not care whether others have clothes outside.

“The person who stays above you will not wait for your clothes to dry and ask you to remove them. It is up to you to protect your clothes,” Chenge said.

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