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Raising kids in a pandemic: A father’s experience



In the wake of the Covid-19, parenting has taken a totally new shift, with parents having to make some adjustments to ensure their children remain comfortable and at ease during this period.

The uncertainty that has engulfed many parents during this period has been overwhelming. Many family routines have been disrupted. Parents with school-going children are faced with a new balancing act that consists of work, childcare, and educational instruction and over sight and in the worst scenario, all of these at the same time. Others have completely lost their jobs or had their working schedules adjusted to few working hours.

But never before have so many fathers got to spend so much time with their children and exercise their parental responsibilities. While just

decades ago the common view of paternity was of a father far from daily child caring, whose role for children relied mostly on the financial support, today involvement from the very start is looming large in the personal aspirations of fathers.

“The coronavirus pandemic caught everyone by surprise. No one was prepared for it. As a family, we were all nervous and confused just like many others. It was a new thing, with a lot of uncertainty and a bit of panic shopping here and there,” Paul Mulemi, a married father of two says. “As a family, we opted to stay indoors and work from home. It was quite unusual and a challenging experience, especially during the first two months. We took to some new ways of life such as online shopping and exercising from our balcony just to try and keep fit,” he explains.

The businessman has a nine-year-old boy called Wesley and a two-and- a-half year old girl called Sarina. He says by virtue of having a young family; it is difficult to make the children understand the magnitude of the pandemic. So, together with his wife, they tried as much as possible and in a child friendly way to talk and teach them some of the measures they needed to incorporate in their daily lifestyle so as to remain safe, especially their older son Wesley.

Paul Mulemi bonds with his children Wesley and Sarina Mulemi.

“As a parent, you want to do everything to protect your children. When it comes to observing the guidelines that have been put in place by the government to prevent the spread of coronavirus, my children are cautious. They know that every time they go out of the house, they must have a mask on. They avoid hugs and shaking of hands thanks to various TV adverts that have been sensitising the public on the same. Wesley practices what his teachers teach them at school via Zoom classes on the importance of sanitising and keeping safe,” says Mulemi.

Bonding all the time He offers: “The only positive aspect of the Covid-19 period is that it has helped me bond with my children and family at large at 100 per cent. We spend a lot of time together, do home schooling, play and I even get to teach them some basic hygiene routines that they need to observe. Spending time with them has also helped me to learn much about them, and the different characters they portray. My children are extroverts and it’s been fun spending time with them.”

On a typical day during this period, Wesley spends time studying and doing his school work via online classes on Zoom. In the evening after a brief session of some small workouts, he then relaxes and plays some games with his sister or watches TV. His sister Sarina on the other hand

is trying to learn how to read and write, play with her toys and also watches cartoons on the TV.

“Our son misses school and playing around with his friends, but we continue to assure him that soon life will return to normalcy,” says Mulemi.

Learning experience For now, Mulemi is still working from home at least 60 per cent of his time. “I can’t say that as per now we are 100 per cent productive since the pandemic has interfered with many people’s businesses. Times are difficult, but we are trying to do the little we can to meet our needs until things stabilise,” he adds.

Even in the midst of the pandemic, Mulemi terms his wife, Faith Andeyo as his greatest support system as they raise their children together. “We let the children explore different things,” he says.

For Mulemi, the pandemic has created opportunities for men to spend more time with their children and get to share their feelings about fatherhood. “I have learnt a lot about children, their behaviours, likes and dislikes and challenges they may face in every milestone they achieve. It is a wake-up call for every dad to love his children and try to give them the best life he can afford,” he says in conclusion.

MULEMI It is a wake-up call for every dad to love his children and try to give them the best life he can afford

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Couple’s pain after woman offers to hold baby, then disappears without a trace



A couple’s five-month-old baby boy is missing after a woman who visited them in Utawala offered to hold him to allow his mother time to finish washing her clothes on Wednesday afternoon.

At the time, baby Harold Ochieng was crying and his mother, 24-year-old Pauline Ilenje, who had strapped her baby to her back, needed time to finish with her laundry.

“She requested to hold him until I was done with cleaning and I agreed,” said Ochieng’s mother.

Unbeknown to her, the intention of the woman, only identified as Aisha, was not good. Pauline unstrapped her child and handed him over to the woman without any qualms. Aisha is said to have been visiting the couple’s neighbour that day.

After finishing her laundry, Pauline realised that the woman who had offered to hold her baby had vanished.

What followed later were hours of panic and a painful search for her baby as the reality that her child had been stolen started hitting home.

Shocked at the turn of events, Pauline made frantic calls to her husband David Ochieng (43), a casual labourer, but she could not reach him.

“I then rushed to Utawala police post to file a report where the officers told me to look for my neighbour and report back to the station with him,” she said.

At around 1pm, her husband called her and informed her that he would join her in the search but, before getting home, he called their neighbour asking for the whereabouts of his visitor.

At around 4pm, the neighbour returned and left in a rush but the couple caught up with him and reported back to Utawala police post for questioning.

She came and left quickly

“Officers at the station then asked us to search for Aisha, whose house we traced to Githunguri in Kiambu County. However, we did not find her there. The door was open but no one was inside. Neighbours told us they spotted her come and leave with a baby and a bag,” Pauline’s husband says.

The couple then returned to Utawala to update the police on their findings, but they were referred to Ruai police station where they were asked to continue with the baby’s search until yesterday afternoon.

“We wondered how we could continue with the search even past curfew hours but we did it anyway without a police escort,” said the baby’s father.

The couple decided to return to Githunguri where they were hopeful that they might find the woman at her house.

Unfortunately, the woman had not returned. Instead, they found a young girl identified as Diana who confirmed that the woman lives there but was not in.

Yesterday, the couple returned to Ruai police station where they recorded a statement and shared their child’s image for circulation.

“The officers informed us that they are tracking the woman’s phone to establish her whereabouts,” Pauline told the Nation.

Police also questioned the couple’s neighbour and the girl who was found at the woman’s house in Githunguri.

“Our neighbour now claims that the woman was his laundry person and not the girlfriend,” she said.

Officers at Ruai police station declined to comment on the matter.

by Nationafrica

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VIDEO: Bonus Value Add for Garden of Joy customers



Finally, it’s all joy for those who bought the Garden of Joy (GOJ). Optiven has pulled a positive surprise by kicking off the installation of hundreds of green solar lights along all the estate roads. The launch happened today when the GOJ was declared a green project.

The engineer installing this green energy friendly street lights lauded Optiven for being an Eco-friendly organization and openly subscribing to suitable development goals no 11 (Sustainable cities and communities) and no 7 ( Affordable and clean energy)

Among the guests who attended this event was Justina Syokao of the popular 2020 hit song.

The installation was packed with joy as the Garden of Joy joined other Optiven projects that have already gone green.

We urged all our customers to join the green movement by building houses that have natural light, use water recycling technologies such as bio digester, trees planting and managing waste.

This project is now ready for occupation and customers have already started building fast and furious

The plots are on offer at 1.295M up to the 30th October. The offer will be 1.495 from 1st of Nov

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Grace Ekirapa: I’ve been unable to access DJ Mo since cheating scandal



Grace Ekirapa, who hosts NTV’s gospel show Crossover 101, has revealed that she had not been in touch with her co-host DJ Mo since rumors he was cheating on his wife Size 8 rocked the internet a fortnight ago.

Ever since reports emerged that DJ Mo, real name Sammy Muraya, was cheating on his wife of seven years Size 8 causing a social media frenzy, the DJ was barred from co-hosting the show with Ekirapa and is thought to be busy trying to glue his marriage together.

Weighing in on the scandal rocking the marriage of her co-host, Ekirapa revealed that she had been trying unsuccessfully to reach out to DJ Mo.

“I haven’t spoken to him and to be honest. It’s been hard for me to get to him. My phone calls haven’t been going through, I know it’s been difficult for him and I think when he is ready he will talk to me. Meanwhile the show has been going on without him but that’s the management’s decision.” Ekirapa revealed during an Interview with Radio Jambo.

She, however, felt DJ Mo should be given a second chance.

“What I will have to say is, when you get saved you won’t stop sinning, you can’t be perfect but there will be consequences. We make mistakes. DJ Mo is an amazing guy and if there’s a chance of working with him again, I would love that.” She added.

The singer also delved into the rumors that once emerged that she was having an affair with DJ Mo, a married man.

“During the launch of Crossover is when the rumor started. We had done a couple of photo shoots on different days and most of the time his hands was on my shoulder or mine on his and so people got talking.” she explained.

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